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February 27, 2009
Question: Dear Wiz, I have been dating a girl for about 7 months now. Everything was fine for the first 3 or 4 months. She was always a trouble maker and a little psycho, but I never really cared. But now she’s a super psycho b**** and she treats me like **** and expects me to do everything for her and gets mad when I can’t. And she always hangs out with old guys like 21 years old. We’re only 15! And she thinks everything is perfect and that I love her. And she’s in love with me! How do I end this relationship? Please help me!!
ANSWER: Hey, you made it for about three or four months before she became super psycho. That’s not too bad when you realize how big a leap it is from psycho to super psycho. Imagine getting stuck with someone like that.
Well, that’s a relationship that went sour – but be assured, you did well at 15 to date so long. Anyway, it is time to end it. When you do, don’t get mad or excited and tell her she’s a super psycho b****. Indeed, don’t even tell her she’s a psycho b****. Oh, don’t even tell her she’s a b****. Any of that brings you to bonzo time (not a pretty picture). And for those reading this, b**** is not bonzo.
Just tell her it's time for both of you to start dating other people. She’ll at first be perplexed, then hurt, then angered, and then happy, because she’ll start dating someone else who (she’ll convince herself) is much better than you are.
Don’t worry, she’s got enough to learn so the next guy will encounter some of the same b**** qualities. In the meantime, you will have found another girl who is much less self-absorbed and hence a better catch.
Wiz
February 15, 2009
Question: She ignores me and always seems to find time for her friends and not me.
ANSWER: No guy stays with a girl who ignores him. She ain’t interested.
Wiz
February 13, 2009
Question: I have been with this girl for 3 years. I think she is in love with me but I can be wrong. It might just be lust. We have been having sex for 3 years and I think I’m afraid if I leave her then I won’t find anyone who is as amazing as her in sex and sexual acts. Also after 3 years of sex it’s hard to let go. But in the long run I don't think we will end up together, so I have to find a way, but I can’t gather the courage to tell her and I'm not even 100% sure if that’s the correct route to take. What do you suggest?
Given facts:
I would lose great sex.
Might not find someone better.
Don't know what it will be like to live without her.
Can’t stand the fact that she will **** a lot of other guys, etc.
Might get her pregnant and ******.
BUT, I might meet someone better who I'm 100% on and in love with that I can have a long term relationship with, maybe even kids.
ANSWER: You are not in love with her. Your only interest in her appears to be the good sex. Though that is a valuable asset, you surely want to find someone who loves you and respects you, and whom you will love and respect as well.
If you think she is in love with you but you could be wrong, she probably is not, because you wouldn’t need to guess if she were.
When you dump her, do not tell her that your only interest in her was sex. She deserves better.
So now, in response to your “given facts:”
“I would lose great sex.” Response: Who says? Your next girls (underline plural) will provide variety and surprises. And one might turn out to be one to love and be loved, and the sex might be dramatically better – believe it or not!
“Might not find someone better.” Response: Of course you will. The odds are in favor of it. Hundreds of thousands of single women exist and are available for your new social investment. Most will provide you unique and memorable experiences, and some will be better.
“Don’t know what it will be like to live without her.” Response: Find out. You’re sounding stuck and wimpy – and just for sex? Life is regenerated by sex, but living life involves much more than sex, mate.
“Can’t stand the fact that she will **** a lot of other guys, etc.” Response: Oh, come on. Possessive are we? Hundreds of thousands of women, and you are stuck here with some notion that your current woman shouldn’t have sex with other men, after you dump her? This is not sanity, if you mean it.
“Might get her pregnant and ******.” Response: Do you mean some other guy might? Well, Hell yes. Do you mean yourself? Better not, or you can’t start dating elsewhere.
Suggestion: Get out of your sexual rut. The world is full of ripe and juicy fruit, and you’re stuck on a three-year prune. Stand up and be counted among the women of the world. Be an independent guy in love with life. When you find a woman who loves you, and when you feel in love, that is the time to get stuck – not stuck because you feel stuck, but because you love it.
By the way, mate, just to be clear to all the readers. Nothing here demeans or demoralizes the woman you have dated for three years. If you don’t love her, and want her only for the good sex, she deserves better. She will find better by dating some of the hundreds of thousands of men that are out there, some of whom are quite able to engage in good sex with her and love her. And, of course, if she doesn’t love you, you deserve better too.
Wiz
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