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July 27, 2006
Question: Ok this chick is a frieken psycho. I want to be rid of her, but there are a few problems. 1 She will the not leave me the crap alone. 2 She is scares me. She tells me how she scratches her skin to bleeding because former boyfriends gave her a bad date. 3 She's never been dumped before so she would take it pretty hard.
ANSWER: A dump is a part of life, like going to the dentist for cavities, having to eat healthy food, putting up with heat and cold, getting rashes, fevers, the heebie-jeebies, and all kinds of other things that plague our every-day lives. She must learn to get over it.
Think about it. How easy do you think it will be two weeks from now if you wait two weeks to dump her? Will it be easier then? Sooner is smoother; quicker is easier. And if you want to be fair to her, be honest with her about the dump. Don’t let her think it is anything less than a dump.
Wizard
July 26, 2006
Question: Everyone has been saying that they hate my girlfriends. Should i have dumped her for that?
ANSWER: Absolutely not.
Wizard
July 26, 2006
Question: I've been dating this woman for 6 months. We have had great times together. . . for about a week and then she gets moody and says she's not sure what she wants to be doing for the rest of her life. She snaps out of that funk and then she's all right for another week. The cycle keeps repeating. I happen to have a 7 year-old son. I think she feels like she has to compete for my attention with him. She's making me feel like I'm riding a roller coaster. . . and it's getting old. Is it time to pull the plug?
ANSWER: When it gets too old, it’s time for the plug pull.
But if your heart is into this relationship, talk it over with her directly. If that gives you a better understanding of her issues so that you find them to be rational and workable for you, so that you are comfortable helping her through them, or you can make adjustments she needs you to make, then don’t pull it.
Wizard
July 10, 2006
Question: so i just started dating this girl. im not really sure i like her, but she definitely likes me and i feel kind of sad when i think about us. i don’t really know what’s going on, but im considering ending it. we haven't been dating that long but i just wanted to see what you had to say. i don’t know if this would help, but, i have this image in my mind of my ideal girl. i even had a dream about this girl, this girl that i thought of. i know it sounds crazy, and its not like she’s this extremely hot beautiful girl or anything. it’s just this girl that when i dream about her, i seriously feel in love, and i know a few girls who look similar and act similar to this one in my mind and dreams, but none of them are her. i feel like maybe one day i will find this "made up" girl. but for now, with me thinking about this girl in my head, im not sure i want to be with the girl im dating. hope you have some helpful tips, thanks.
ANSWER: That dream girl haunts many guys. Yes, it is common to have in one’s mind an imagined girl who meets all desires. Usually she is not stunningly beautiful – like what the media tells us is beautiful – but she’s beautiful to the guy who sees her. Her voice is usually sweet as honey. She’s just the right size in height and weight – she’s the perfect date, companion, and lover. You’d go anywhere with her and you’d adore her always because she can do no wrong.
She is, however, a figment of the imagination. She is not real. It is fun to dream of something so naturally beautiful and comfortable to be with, but it is not productive to measure your dates by the standard of your imagined dream-date.
Enjoy the date you have. Take her positive traits for the good that they are and be forgiving of her faults. Part of dating is learning to accept traits that don’t quite meet your “top ten” standard. People aren’t perfect. We might yearn for perfection but will not find it.
Don’t stop dreaming. It’s too much fun. Your imagination can and will reward you many times over with all kinds of wondrous moments. Never stop. But don’t expect the real world to measure up.
Remember, though, the real world is nonetheless a marvelous wonder on its own. After all, your imagination depends on what you have learned in the real world. Have fun with what it offers. (Don’t give up on this girl who definitely likes you.)
Wizard
July 5, 2006
Question: Hello, Wizard. I’m Bill. Two weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend. Straight away I began to like her best friend. The day after I broke up with my girlfriend, I asked out the best friend. My girlfriend, or now ex-girlfriend, did not act as if she was shocked or depressed. I thought, great, I'm in love again. For some reason, I feel a deep emptiness inside me that was and can only be
filled by the love of my ex-girlfriend. I still love my ex and I believe this is ruining my new relationship because my girlfriend acts as if she hates me now. For example, I used to hug her and kiss her and she loved it; now I do it and she hates it. She says she will dump me if I do it again. Also I call her darling and she will go psycho at me. I feel like my input into the relationship is massive but she does not seem to put or even want to put anything into our relationship. I have been told I have a bad case of resentment flu but I believe it is more than that. I believe that I can't even communicate . . . .
Thank you.
ANSWER: Your current girlfriend (the best friend of the ex-girlfriend) does not want you as a boyfriend. A girl friend does not hate getting hugs or kisses, and does not threaten to dump you if you do it again, unless you’re doing it in weird places or at dumb times.
She might very well feel resentment if she knows how you now feel about your ex girlfriend.
Unclear of the question, the wizard can’t help much. Looks like you might need to find a new girlfriend, though.
Wizard
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